Post Valentine's Day

Well, I'm back on here after a week of sickness and trying to spend time with Dad.

Tonight was interesting. I went to the open house reception of a friend ( who started out as the friend of a friend) who got married. And here's the kicker: I dated and was almost engaged to her ex-husband before I got to know Diane.

Yeah, met up with Jim shortly after my divorce in August 2001. I thought I was all healed and ready to move on. Jim and I connected very fast and soon were talking marriage, shopping for a house and he sent me shopping for an engagement ring. He told me all these horrible things about his ex-wife, Diane. Then, Jim went weird. We broke up. He broke my heart. Keith made me angry and sad, but Jim truly broke my heart, like no other.

Then I met his ex-wife, through my friend Karen. It was weird at first and we both agreed to just be civil to each other, for the sake our mutual freindship with Karen. It's been over 7 years now. Diane and I and her fiance'/ now husband have crossed paths and gotten to know each other. I have no understanding what Jim was talking about when he talked to me about her.

Well, she and John got married after 8 years together and had an open house reception tonight.
I was invited and I went. It was a little weird. As I drove over, I started to reminisce about me and Jim and how hard I fell for him and how he broke my heart and what he said about Diane and now I am her friend and going to her wedding reception. And her kids were going to be there.
I didn't know what to expect. Didn't know what kind of reception the kids would give me.

I arrived alone and rang the doorbell. Diane answered., looking stunning as usual.
Suddenly , a young woman ran to me and was hugging me and screaching about how happy she was to see me. It was her daughter, Courtney. Courtney and I grew close while I dated Jim and I never got to say goodbye. This was our first connection in over 7 years. I was shocked at this young woman in front of me , and her tears and hugs. It melted me. We hugged, screamed with joy, hugged each close for a long time, a few tears, and she jumped up and down. I was floored!! I couldn't believe she remembered me yet alone greeted me with such enthusiasm.

I had a good greeting and conversation with the other 2 "kids" who treated me with utmost respect. Had a great converation with Christopher. Had a great time sitting by the fireplace listening and talking with Courtney and her boyfriend. And Diane and John were soooo wonderful and Diane and I shared some brief moments of past memories and moved forward.

This was an aweseome evening.

So, I celebrated John and Diane's marriage, let go of my heartbreak with Jim and felt the love and acceptance from his/their kids

God really is in control. Most of the time, we need to be saved from our own decisions.

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