My Life 201

2019 has had a bit of a rough start for me some would say. Recently, a well meaning person said "I'm so sorry to hear of all your misfortunes" .  That struck me because, in spite of some setbacks, I truly don't feel I'm the victim of misfortune. No, I'm not a " Pollyanna". I have my down days. But I have decided in recent years to do my best to have a positive outlook and accept difficulties as opportunities and look for the blessings. This is not easy and doesn't always come naturally. It takes practice and sometimes it works and sometimes, not so much. So, let's start with what has happened in these first few months of this new year. 1.   On Feb. 17th, I suffered a broken ankle.  I was participating in a special "ladies only" motorcycle slow skills practice event. This had been planned for months and was, I believe, the first of it's kind in this area. I had been so excited and looking forward to it. For a motorcycl

So, a friend recently pointed out to me that I have now been divorced longer than I was married. When I got divorced I remember adamantly telling my friends I would be remarried within a year. And then I went out and hit the bars and dating sites hard. Because I HAD to be married. I was naive, broken and had almost no self esteem.  I was in a roller coaster marriage for 16 years. Alcohol, drugs, chronic unemployment,  some verbal abuse, some sexual abuse near the end and finally infidelity. No, I wouldn't change my decision. I loved him, stuck to my vows until the infidelity and my past experiences shaped me into who I am now. I've now been officially divorced for almost 18 years. Time flies. And through this single phase of my life I have had to battle the stigma of being "so long divorced". The endless questions about "How's your love life?"  " Are you dating?"   "Any men in your life?" "Why can't you find a husband?"